We all have things we really want. You might have noticed that there are some things that you especially want but no matter how much you want them and dream about them, you just can’t bring yourself to take the steps needed to achieve them.
You are ready to save for something great but end up going shopping and feel terribly guilty. You are ready to feel good in your body but end up eating way too much dessert and hate yourself for it. You are ready to go out and get your dream job but end up watching Netflix for six hours and feel like a waste of life.
We’ve all been there. Have you ever noticed what you tell yourself in these types of situations? We can be so mean to ourselves! It’s as if we aren’t even on our own team.
It’s actually kind of funny when you think about it. We really want something, we rebel against ourselves and don’t do what we need to do to get it and then shame ourselves for being so stupid. Rinse and repeat. Rinse and repeat. This crazy cycle can leave you feeling hopeless, like a failure and completely frustrated. You beat yourself at your own game. Congrats!
The good news is, all you need is a very powerful mindset shift to nip this in the bud. It’s a shift from self shame and loathing to self love. You will take or have taken actions that take you further from your goals rather than closer. Guess what? It’s time to forgive yourself for that. When you love yourself, flaws and all, you cross back over the line onto your own team. You are in this together. You aren’t making good life choices despite half of you wanting your to fail. You become 100% committed to what you truly want and you take the necessary actions to get there because you love yourself and want you to have what you want most.
Next time you do something in complete opposition to what you truly want to be doing, stop. Take out a notebook or open up a document and start writing. What are you telling yourself? Are you laying on the shame and guilt? Next, understand where you were coming from and come up with some reasons why you might have done what you did. Write a statement forgiving yourself to get back on your own team. Repeat this practice for a few weeks and notice the shift!